All the books said..."Don't!", but I was so tired of Boo sucking from me just for snuggle comfort that after 3 weeks I caved. It was one of the first decisions I felt guilty about because it was against the "official" advice and I felt for the first time that I was doing it for me and not for him. However, the green light came from a friend and mom of 3 who nonchalantly said, "oh why not". She knew what I didn't: That this was just such a small thing compared to the others I would confront. So I did it. From that first moment he never looked back. We've been through dozens, and he uses it in bed as his lovey, holding on to the nipple while he sleeps.
Now he's one of *those* toddlers with that stupid thing in his mouth. Luckily, it's becoming more of a guilty pleasure when no one else is around: in the car, in bed.
After caving in, I actually found it rather convenient and was a bit proud even -- at least he doesn't suck his thumb, I told people. When it's time, I can take it away. (Easier said than done, btw).
And now: Little Guy comes along and couldn't give a dang about the pacifier. Spits it out. Will only use it on the way to dreamland. From the first week he's been trying the thumb. Now he alternates between left thumb and the index and middle finger of his right hand. Like he's trying to decide which is best. I hate to think how long this will go on (3 years? 10 years? 20?). I have images that it becomes so subconscious that he won't be able to keep a girlfriend because he'll start sucking his thumb in his sleep.
I'm gloating no more. Now what seemed like my choices appear to be their preferences and demands expressing themselves. I am amazed that these first glimmers of personality emerge so early. I'm so grateful for Little Guy to show me that he's his own person.
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